“We became willing to ask God to help us remove our defects of character.”
‘We’ve had these defects we’re about to let go of for a long time so there’s probably a measure of fear about changing-because change means the unknown and the unknown is part of why we drank or used. It’s important to keep a sense of hope and trust in the program and the process of recovery that has worked on even the most deeply rooted ( the Latin word ‘radix’ gives us the words ‘radical’ and root’ ) character defects.
Here are some questions to help guide you through Step Six:
- What are your fears about doing a sixth step?
- What does it mean that a “higher power” can remove them?
- What is your responsibility?
- Do you believe you can change? Have you changed so far? How?
- Are some of your character defects enjoyable because they give you pleasure? Why? In what ways are or could they be enjoyable?
- Are there any defects that you think cannot be removed? Why? Are you willing to have all of them removed- if not why?
- How does surrender help with Step 6?
- What actions can you take to show yourself that you are entirely ready?
Here’s are two great Step Six activities that you can do alone or with your sponsor:
- Make a list (which you’re already so good at!) of each character defect of yours, including a very brief definition of it. Then list the ways that you act out behaviorally on the defect and the effect it has on yourself and others when you do. Lastly, write about what your life would be like without the behavior and what principle you may be able to apply instead. ( this is an application – how to gauge- of your willingness to remove defects )
- Create Affirmations: Take each major character defect and write three to five positive statements about living differently. ( research indicates that in order to remove a negative statement/thought/defect 3 to 5 positives must be thought, written or spoken ) Repeat these affirmations aloud in the morning and evening (word them in the present tense, as if you’ve already conquered the defect.) For example if “lying” is the defect you could write: I am now telling the truth in all matters.”