to forgive,

the essential question: where, when, does forgiveness begin? And when is an offended, hurt person to let go – let go of hurts, to forgive, even if they are never asked or approached by the offender?

I, sadly, have had many people hurt me and never asked for anything, any forgiving, from myself: spouses; pastors; friends; family … in sorrows, it is a long line. And I am on it with at least one person I hurt horribly.

So, where and when does forgiveness begins?

I personally believe the desire for forgiveness only stops when the offending person makes amends, approaches and asks the hurting party if they can speak together, listen together. Forgive face to face; heart to heart.

They may not be able to ‘ make it right’ but they can in ‘humility’ the offender can listen and ask for forgiveness.

This ‘how to’ stance of listening and being humble is an essential first step.

This is the Lord’s Prayer,

I see the Lord’s Prayer shows this step, forgive as you desire to be forgiven

I believe that if another comes to me, makes the step, to say I have hurt them; then I listen and try to ask for forgiveness as much as I can ‘amend’- but they have to come.

I have tired to find the person I failed but have not been able too. But I will keep stepping; trying; praying.

And if those who hurt me never come? Daily, moment by moment, I forgive them. By name… prayerfully

And writing about it

, helps