9, ‘live’

from “Living Sober”,

‘it is perfectly natural that we still encounter some people who get on our nerves, both within AA and outside it. We may find that our non-AA friends, co-workers, or family members still treat us as if we were drinking. (It may take them a little while to believe that we have reallystopped. After all, they may have seen us stop many times in the past, only to start again.)
To begin to put the concept of “Live and Let Live” into practice, we must face this fact: There are people in A.A, and everywhere else, who sometimes say things we disagree with, or do things we don’t like. Learning to live with differences is essential to our comfort. It is exactly in those cases that we have found it extremely helpful to say to ourselves, “Oh, well, ‘Live and Let Live.'”’

As I start Step 12, my step here is to serve people. But that service may with the people I am with who I resent, don’t like, who rub, move me in wrong ways or whom I do the same to. How can I focus on service if I resent?

Later in ‘Living Sober’ the writer this me an answer that I find super helpful,

Let live”—yes. But some of us find just as much value in the first part of the slogan: “Live”!

Live. Focus on my life choices. live.


11, step twelve

What am I responsible for? to, with?

I am only responsible for the second thought and the action we I take. Why? My initial and fearful response may arise more from habit than necessity. In time, I pray to learn that when I am feeling paralyzed and overwhelmed, and probably, surely, complicating matters- then I am rescuing; iI am taking on more than I can handle for this moment or this day.
Longtimers reminds us, “we may not like the situation we are in, but thanks to the We Program and our collective Higher Power, we are empowered to like ourselves in the situation. By not picking-up the first autopiloted and reactionary stinking-thinking of, “shoot-first and aim-later,” we are being Iiberated from the vicious cycle and bondage of regret, guilt, shame and remorse. We are blessed.

I give thanks to Longtimers for empowering me to filter any situation with the three stanzas of the Serenity Prayer as “first thing first” so I can turn over what belongs to God, and pray to be granted the courage to change the things I can by using the slogans and the collective wisdom of the We Program.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference.

Or, as it was first composed with ‘must’, for ‘us,’

Father, give us courage to change what must be altered, serenity to accept what cannot be helped, and the insight to know the one from the other.

Lord, grant me to discern the differences between what I can do, and what I must change.

As I begin step 12, I need to know, discern how is life must be letting of God in.


Step 12 on my 12th day share: ‘Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.’ The last 12 shares of this 90 part share begins today.

Step 12 is about service. It seems to be, on the surface, about giving to, serving another, others.

In reality, in my life, it is about serving myself. I give, serve another; I serve, give to myself.